What You Must Do To Have A Happy Marriage

Almighty God is the founder of marriage and his the one that perform the first marriage according to (Genesis 2:22,23) so he his the right person to approach for a successful marriage through his word the life manual BIBLE.
When you get married, you may think that everything will be perfect. Realistically, though, even a husband and a wife who truly love each other will have some problems. (1 Corinthians 7:28) In this article, you will find Bible principles that, if applied, can make your marriage and family happy.

—Psalm 19:8-11.

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What You Do To Have A Hppy Marriage

ACCEPT THE ROLE ALMIGHTY GOD JEHOVAH GAVE               YOU
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS: The husband is the head of the family.—Ephesians 5:23.If you are a husband, Jehovah expects you to care for your wife tenderly. (1 Peter 3:7) He made her as a complement of you, and he wants you to treat her with dignity and love. (Genesis 2:18) You must love your wife so much that you are willing to put her interests ahead of your own.—Ephesians 5:25-29
.If you are a wife, Jehovah expects you to respect your husband deeply and to help him fulfill his role. (1 Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:33) Support his decisions and wholeheartedly cooperate with him. (Colossians 3:18) When you do, you will be beautiful in the eyes of your husband and of Jehovah.—1 Peter 3:1-6.
WHAT YOU CAN DO:
Ask your mate how you can be a better husband or wife. Listen carefully, if possible write it down and put it in place you can see it regularly and do what you can to improve.
Then make effort to ask your partner to rate your improvement. 
 Be patient. It will take time for both of you to learn how to make each other happy
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How to Stop Arguing in Relationship

Are you and your spouse unable to discuss things calmly? Does it feel as if you are always walking through a minefield in which any step could set off an explosive dispute?

If so, be assured that things can improve. But first you need to find out why you and your spouse argue so much.

                               WHY IT HAPPENS

Misunderstandings.

A wife named Jillian admits: “Sometimes I say something to my husband and it doesn’t come out as I intended. Or I am convinced that I told him something, when I really only dreamed that I told him. That’s actually happened!”

Differences.

No matter how compatible you and your spouse may seem to be, your views on some matters will differ. Why? Because no two people are exactly alike—a fact that can add either variety or tension to marriage. For many couples, the result is tension.

Poor role models.

“My parents argued a lot and made disrespectful comments to each other,” says a wife named Rachel, “so when I got married I talked to my husband the way my mother talked to my father. I had not learned how to show respect.”

Deeper concerns.

Often, a fiery argument is really about something other than the event that ignited it. For example, a dispute that starts with “You’re always late!” may not be about the need for punctuality but about one spouse feeling that he or she has been treated inconsiderately.

Whatever the cause, frequent arguing can adversely affect your health and can even be a predictor of eventual divorce. How, then, can you stop arguing?

                                  WHAT YOU CAN DO

A key to preventing arguments is identifying the underlying issues that fuel them. When things are calm, try the following exercise with your spouse.

1. On separate sheets of paper, each of you should write down the topic of a recent argument. For example, a husband might write, “You spent the whole day with your friends and didn’t call me to tell me where you were.” A wife might write, “You got upset because I spent time with my friends.”

2. With an open mind, discuss the following: Was the matter really that serious? Could it have been overlooked? In some cases, for the sake of peace, it may suffice to agree to disagree and to cover over the matter with love.—Bible principle: Proverbs 17:9.

If you and your spouse conclude that the matter was trivial, apologize to each other and consider it settled.—Bible principle: Colossians 3:13, 14.

If the matter seems more serious to one or both of you, proceed to the next step.

3. Write down how you felt during the argument, and have your spouse do the same. For example, a husband might write, “I felt that you preferred the company of your friends over my company.” A wife might write, “I felt that you were treating me as if I were a child who had to check in with her father.”

4. Swap papers with your spouse, and read each other’s comments. What was your spouse’s deeper concern during the argument? Discuss what each of you could have done differently to address the underlying issues without arguing.—Bible principle: Proverbs 29:11.

5. Discuss what you learned from this exercise. How can you use what you learned to solve or prevent a future argument?

IF YOU HAVE ARGUED . . .

Dig deeper: What did each of you really need from the other during the dispute? Get to the underlying issues.
“Replay” the event: Instead of arguing, what could each of you have done differently to address those underlying issues?

If the matter was trivial, apologize to each other and consider it settled.

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BREAKING! B' Haram Kills 13 In Fresh Niger Village Attack

Dreaded Islamist sect, Boko Haram has attacked a village in Niger state, leaving thirteen people dead.

This is coming just hours after the Nigerian troops recorded significant victory in its battle against the insurgents, where over 300 people were freed from the terrorists’ den.

According to Vanguard reports, Mallam Ligari, a local official in Diffa region of the state confirmed the casualties on Wednesday.
“Thirteen people were executed and three others suffered gunshot wounds in an attack by Boko Haram Tuesday evening in Ala village,” he was quoted to have told AFP.

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Wenger Strongly Criticizes Arsenal Stars After Shameful Defeat

The manager of Arsenal, Arsene Wenger, has criticised his players after a 3-0 loss to Sheffield Wednesday in the League Cup. 
After the match, in which two key Gunners, Alex Oxlade-Chamberlain and Theo Walcott, were injured, Wenger was highly critical of his side.
It was Arsenal’s biggest defeat to lower-league opposition since 1959.
Wenger said: “We were not at the level that is requested to play a team of the quality of Sheffield Wednesday.We have to congratulate them. They were sharper, quicker, more decisive than us. We had a lot of the ball but we didn’t create anything, especially in the middle of the park. Of course it [defending] was disappointing. The occasion was too great for the younger players. They are not ready to play at this level – none of them. We conceded two from set-pieces and were very naive.We have to analyse it [the defeat] and I think we knew at the start of the game that if something happened to us, we were a bit short [on back-up options]. “

Some have suggested that the North Londoners are out of the competition because of youngsters. Glen Kamara and Alex Iwobi started and Krystian Bielik and Ismael Bennacer were introduced from the bench.
However,  the statistics show that Arsenal had every chance with 71% ball possession.

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Woman Rape Man

A 40-year-old woman has been charged with marital rape in the first indictment of its kind in South Korea.

The woman, identified only as Shim, locked her partner, surnamed Kim, in their family house for 29 hours and forced him to have sex with her. Shim is believed to have been sexually abusing her husband in order to obtain exculpatory evidence for divorce procedures.

She has become the first woman in the country to be charged with spousal rape. Earlier this year, another woman was charged with attempted rape for drugging her ex-boyfriend, tying him up and hitting with a hammer. However, she claimed she did not want to rape him.

Once widely condoned or ignored by law and society, marital rape is now opposed by many societies around the world, repudiated by international conventions, and increasingly criminalized. Still, in many countries, marital rape either remains outside the law, or is illegal but widely tolerated, with the laws against it being rarely enforced.

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Why PDP Chieftain Vote For Buhari - PDP Chieftain Opens Up

Alhaji Sa’idu Gumburawa, a chieftain of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) in Sokoto state disclosed that he voted for President Muhammadu Buhari in the 2015 presidential election.

Speaking on Tuesday, October 27, at Gumburawa village in Wamakko local government area, Gumburawa, a former member of the House of Representatives said he did so because he believed in Buhari’s change agenda, NAN reports.

He said: “I am a PDP man, but I voted for Buhari during the last presidential election due to my conviction that he has the Nigerian project topmost in his mind.”

According to him, Nigeria will be a better place in the next two years under President Buhari as the change agenda would have started to show.

He advised the president to ignore unnecessary distractions but heed constructive criticisms.Showing support for Buhari’s anti-corruption fight, Gumburawa said proactive measures should be taken to bring back all the country’s stolen funds stashed away in other countries.

The PDP chieftain urged the National Assembly to support the federal government’s change agenda by making relevant laws that would bring about rejuvenation of the nation.

The former lawmaker also called on Nigerians to patient with the president as he needed time to fully correct the wrongs of the past.

On the issue of insecurity, Gumburawa said: “More efforts should be made to provide the needed arms and ammunition, transportation, incentives and other logistics to the various security agencies in the country, to enable them discharge their mandate effectively.”

Buhari  won Nigeria’s presidential election by 2.57 million votes, according to official results announced by the Independent National Electoral Commission, defeating Goodluck Jonathan of the PDP.

The president said that his administration is building a new Nigeria and that the effort requires the support and participation of its citizens both at home and abroad.

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